Thursday, November 5, 2009

Am I Brainwashed?

babe-of-the-day-grace-park-20091026043953871 That is the question that I have been asking myself lately.  I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine (female friend) that made the decision to shave her head.  Now she did seem to have some difficulty with it at first, but then she told me that she started to rock it.  She even told me that some of her professors said that they liked it. 

I ended up responding to her, (I can’t remember what lead me to say this), that I don’t find shaved heads attractive.  Not a smart thing to say to a women with a shaved head.  To my comment she responded that I was brainwashed by society to believe in their form of beauty.

Now the truth is I can’t in any way 100% prove that she is wrong in what she was saying, since I was born and raised in this society.  There is no way for me to be born and raised in a different culture other than my own.  But at the same time I can’t just leave it at that.  I’m a guy I have to be right sometimes.

grace-park-20081104020026480 So I took it upon myself to examine, what I believe is beauty. Which brought me to look at the women that I currently think are beautiful. To the left is a picture of Grace Park.  Now I find this women absolutely amazing.  I know most people that watched Battlestar Galactica (BSG) watched it for Tricia Helfer, but for me Grace had my eyes especially after her first love scene with Helo (Tahmoh Penikett).  Then in the 3rd season when she got into some better shape, there was no turning back for me. 

babe-of-the-day-grace-park-20091026043944841-000 Now some may say sure that its easy to like her.  She is beautiful, etc.  But you need to look at what our culture finds beautiful.  Society likes a skin big breasted, women with a nice butt. She doesn’t have all of those qualities.  I’ve shown you 2 of the better pictures of Grace, but here is a picture that I don’t find her so attractive in. (To the right)  Grace Park is a really skinny women and I like a bit more meat on my bones. She also has small breasts and I do like breasts to be a bit bigger.  But I still find her to be probably my favourite celebrity women right now. 

Why you might ask?  Because I do.  I’ve found that over the years that what I thought was beauty has changed and a lot of what I find attractive in a women is her personality.  The physical is a factor in a women’s beauty (I won’t deny that), but I find that the personality is now a big factor for me.  Also I have found that there are different things to like in different women.  When I look at all the women that I liked from high school on up, there was different things that I liked about them.  I never simply just relied on a physical criteria in selecting a woman. 

Most women seem to have a belief that they must conform to a certain set of physical parameters to be beautiful, but I know 3 women that didn’t fit any of the characteristics of what society called beautiful, that had men lined around the block waiting to go out with them.  One women I know was over weight but she still managed to have a bunch of boyfriends. (One of the guys she went out with kind of surprised me). The second girl, I kind of found ugly, but she had no shortage of guy friends ready to take her out.  The last women was some what attractive, but it was her personality that really stuck out with the guys that she worked with.

Guys like women for more that just the physical.  Despite our social norms.


  1. Interesting.
    A couple of things about your post caught my attention. You admit to being influenced by society, and North American culture (which we all are) then speak of the impossibility of being born in another culture. Well, obviously we can't escape our society but the point is you need to be critical of it. Like asking yourself who has set these standards of beauty? Why do people feel pressured to follow them and forfeit individuality?
    Many people go through life just accepting everything as it is, and never stopping to wonder why. In my opinion, this is a sad existence.

    I think it`s important to seperated reality from fantasy. Grace is atractive to you because she acts well and as a result creates good `sexual` scenes? Or was it the exciting music that got you? lol.

    The bottom line is we`re all entitled to our preferences and if yours are based on actresses then so be it.
    By the way, shaved heads are hot!

  2. Excuse my spelling mistakes.I should have checked after writing!

  3. lol. Well said. I guess I didn't make my point strong enough. I believe that there is no way for me to say that my preferences were not shaped by society. I would love to be able to say that, but I just can't.

    And Shaved heads can look good on the right women. Like the women I know. She actually still looked good with her shaved head.